I have taken a break from the blog for a few weeks, my time has been pretty full of, well, other things. But, I have started writing a story, since the urge to write doesn't disappear simply because one is out of time for such things... so, sneaky as can be, I have managed to write 6 pages or so. It might need some editing, a little more detail, or a little less, here and there, but I think it is shaping up quite nicely, for someone who hadn't written anything more serious than some poetry and a million status updates since high school. If anyone has any comments, feel free to leave me some feedback. :) And no, the story is not done yet, I have no idea where it is going, no clue what the point is, except that I HAD to write something. So bear with me on that, would ya?
Monday, April 16, 2012
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Unfriending the Ex
So I did it. I took the plunge, as they say. I unfriended my ex and the rest of his family on Facebook. Next step? File for divorce. But that's okay, it's been heading this way longer than I even care to contemplate. I should have done this a long time ago and saved myself a lot of trouble and drama. I mean really.
The ex, of course, has accused me of using the kids as pawns in this whole dissolution of the relationship thing, which is patently ridiculous and really deserves no discussion. I have tried my hardest to keep him in their lives, but I am no longer willing to wait around for him to decide he has time to see them. Is this using them as pawns? Refusing to wait for phone calls, refusing to sit around my house until he shows up, doing things he was supposed to do, taking them to doctor appointments by myself, being a SINGLE FREAKING PARENT because he doesn't have time? THIS is using them as pawns? Sorry, here I was thinking I was living my life, and doing a good job doing the best I can. I was unaware of the ex's point of view. Whoops.
He also has accused me of not paying attention to myself, in like a million ways, and called me on things I thought were completely valid, but in his world is petty shit, I guess. Tells me I need to grow up. As if I'm not already 100% more grown up and responsible than he is. I am always there for my kids, though maybe not in the same way that he would be, but then we are two different people. Duh. I am there to clean up their vomit, a job he has NEVER done, I am there to make sure they are fed, bathed, clean clothes, food to go with them when they go some place (those pesky allergies, anyway!), I wash the dishes, I may not be perfect at all of these things but I DO MY BEST. More than I can say for him. He can't even REMEMBER what the kids can't eat. So stuck in his own head and his own world view, they only exist for him when it's convenient.
So yes, unfriended you are, jerk face. And the rest of your family too, especially since I keep getting phone calls from COLLECTIONS AGENCIES for people who don't even LIVE HERE. And yes, they are your Dad and Step-Mom. Fine, but I need not associate with them or with you, and now I can finally say whatever I want on my own personal Facebook, without worrying about what they, or you, all think. FINALLY. And that feels pretty damn good.
The ex, of course, has accused me of using the kids as pawns in this whole dissolution of the relationship thing, which is patently ridiculous and really deserves no discussion. I have tried my hardest to keep him in their lives, but I am no longer willing to wait around for him to decide he has time to see them. Is this using them as pawns? Refusing to wait for phone calls, refusing to sit around my house until he shows up, doing things he was supposed to do, taking them to doctor appointments by myself, being a SINGLE FREAKING PARENT because he doesn't have time? THIS is using them as pawns? Sorry, here I was thinking I was living my life, and doing a good job doing the best I can. I was unaware of the ex's point of view. Whoops.
He also has accused me of not paying attention to myself, in like a million ways, and called me on things I thought were completely valid, but in his world is petty shit, I guess. Tells me I need to grow up. As if I'm not already 100% more grown up and responsible than he is. I am always there for my kids, though maybe not in the same way that he would be, but then we are two different people. Duh. I am there to clean up their vomit, a job he has NEVER done, I am there to make sure they are fed, bathed, clean clothes, food to go with them when they go some place (those pesky allergies, anyway!), I wash the dishes, I may not be perfect at all of these things but I DO MY BEST. More than I can say for him. He can't even REMEMBER what the kids can't eat. So stuck in his own head and his own world view, they only exist for him when it's convenient.
So yes, unfriended you are, jerk face. And the rest of your family too, especially since I keep getting phone calls from COLLECTIONS AGENCIES for people who don't even LIVE HERE. And yes, they are your Dad and Step-Mom. Fine, but I need not associate with them or with you, and now I can finally say whatever I want on my own personal Facebook, without worrying about what they, or you, all think. FINALLY. And that feels pretty damn good.
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